Mastering the Art of Living: A Guide to Loving Your Life Beyond Comparison

Adebola Alabi
3 min readNov 19, 2023
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Ever found yourself aimlessly scrolling through social media, catching a glimpse of someone’s shiny new car, and suddenly feeling a twinge of envy for your faithful old wheels? Or perhaps you’ve glanced across the office, wondering why your colleague snagged that coveted promotion while you’re still stationed in your cubicle. Ah, the comparison game — we’ve all dabbled in it at some point.

In Rachel Cruze’s book, “Love Your Life, Not Theirs,” she unravels seven incredible habits capable of reshaping our approach to managing money. Her resounding message? Constantly sizing ourselves up against others only leads to frustration. Instead, Rachel champions the pursuit of a life that genuinely brings us joy and financial stability.

So, here’s a thought-provoking query: Can you authentically love your life, even when it seems like everyone around you is living the dream? Brace yourself because the answer is a resounding YES!

Picture this: You, wholeheartedly embracing your life, reveling in your accomplishments, appreciating what you have, and NOT harboring even a whisper of envy for those seemingly ahead in life’s journey. Intrigued? Let’s dive in because we’re about to decode the ABCs of living and loving your life eternally.

A = Association

Recall the wise words of Jim Rohn: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Feeling a bit off-center today? It might be prime time to reconsider your inner circle. You’ve heard it before, and here it is again: “Birds of a feather flock together.” If you’re weary of fluttering among the chickens and crave something more, it’s time to soar alongside the eagles. Eagles soar high, and their flight will uplift you too! Choose your associations wisely, for they hold profound sway over your perspective on life.

B = Be Ambitious

It’s in our human nature to strive for progress, and ambition fuels that drive. Take a moment to reflect on where you stood a decade ago. Are you in a better place now, considering all aspects of your life — career, finances, relationships, skills, experiences, and beyond?

If you find yourself slightly off the mark from where you envisioned, could it be that you’ve underestimated the sheer power of “Ambition”? Embrace ambition: set loftier expectations, trust in your capacity for growth, and commit to a path of continual improvement and purposeful advancement. It’s that motivational force propelling you toward your utmost potential. Be ambitious and persist in pursuing your aspirations.

C = Contentment

Repeat this mantra: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” There will always be someone with a flashier car, a grander home, or a seemingly glossier life. That’s the ebb and flow of life. But here’s the clandestine elixir — find peace within it. Don’t let it steer you down the disillusioning path of discontent. For each person whose life you covet, there’s someone yearning for the simple pleasures you might overlook.

Contentment doesn’t equate to lacking ambition; it’s about dancing to your own rhythm without being swayed by your neighbor’s catchy tune.

Remember, life isn’t solely about waiting for the weekends and holidays. I implore you to embrace these ABC tips, and you’ll unearth the exhilaration of living and loving your life as though it were the only one in your possession — because, in all honesty, it is. So, relish each moment, applaud your victories, and embrace the journey, dear friend. Your life is a masterpiece waiting to be admired, not a competition of comparisons.



Adebola Alabi

A Certified Financial Education Instructor. Mission is to help bring out the best in others. Thanks for reading my work. Check my website