Relationship Advice

Influence starts from the inside and it radiates outside.

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Most of us have a somewhat distorted view of what influence is all about. We erroneously associate influence with the position that people occupy. We stay on the sideline, refusing to add our thoughts and opinions, and input to help shape the world and make it a better place. We cede those tasks to people in positions of authority.

Influence starts from the inside and it radiates outside. You can start from where you are today and influence those that are around you. As a father, you can influence your son for good and set them up to become a…


Pivot, re-route, re-plan, re-strategize, but don’t stop.

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Every day, everyday people are defying odds and overcoming hardships to achieve their goals.
They move forward in spite of the challenges they encountered.
They get results in spite of setbacks they experienced.

In spite of multiple rejections, JK Rowling became a best-selling author
In spite of his old age and stuttering, Joe Biden became the 46th president of the United States.
In spite of his disabilities, Nick Vujicic became an inspiration to millions of people.
In spite of her difficult childhood experience, Oprah Winfrey became a successful woman.

In spite of your challenges, you need to rise…


It’s the way you react to circumstances around you

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It’s the way you react or respond to situations or events around you.
People often react differently to somewhat similar situations and circumstances.
Your reaction is closely tied to your attitude regarding your situation.

The good news — You can choose how you react
You can choose to be negative — reactive
You can choose to be positive about it — opportunistic.

People that react negatively only see the extreme positions
Whether is either too hot or too cold
The rain is too much, or the sun shines too brightly
They hardly see any middle ground

The outcome…


Almost all worthwhile endeavours require learning and willingness to improve before the expert status could be reached.

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I’m sure you’ve heard the common saying, what is worth doing is worth doing well. I’ve used the statement on multiple occasions to encourage people to put in their best in whatever they do, and I always use it to motivate myself to get stuff done. But my thinking and interpretation of this saying were recently challenged when a friend interpreted it as meaning, if you don’t know how to do certain things well enough, you should not attempt to start it. Although…


Identify your strengths & Capitalize on them.

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He was born with a rare disorder characterized by the absence of arms and legs.
He couldn’t walk, run, or jog like regular people.
He has no hands or arms to write, shake, or hug.

Yet, Nick Vujicic became a motivational speaker with millions of followers.

Disabilities do not mean you cannot live a purposeful life.
You may not be able to do things the way regular people do.
You must never let your challenge disable your dreams.

Challenges are not only physical.
They come in different forms.

They can be:

Financial — not enough funds…


Love your neighbor as yourself — the greatest commandment

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Matthew 22: 37–40 Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Most of us exhibit convenient love.

We love our spouses because they are beautiful & attractive.
We love our families, because of the blood connection.
We love our friends, because they are fun to be with.
We love our church members because we belong to the same body of Christ.
We…


It’s all about putting first thing first.

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What would happen if you knew the exact thing you need to do today to move you towards your goals? What if you can say the same thing about every day — you know what you must do when to do them, and you have a plan of how to proceed to get what you want? How would your life look like if you can accomplish these?

I know what would happen — you will bring orderliness into your day, your stress level will go down, you will be more focused, you will…


Our decisions today will influence our tomorrow.

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We are the products of our decisions.
The decisions we made in the past made us who we are today.
Our decisions today will influence our future.

Some decisions are made for short term benefits
While some are driven by long-term prospects.
How can you effectively balance short-term benefits with longer-term rewards?

Most of the future rewards are driven by temporary sacrifice.

A student who skips class to hang out with friends enjoys momentary fun.
A student that does the opposite is focusing on the long-term reward of graduation.

A person who earns and spend all his money…


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God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you.’” Exodus 3:14

The name “I AM” is the most powerful name, because it is applicable to any and all situations you may encounter.

If you are sick, I AM is your healer.

If you are heart-broken, I AM is your comforter.

If you are lonely, I AM is your companion.

When you are confused, I AM can provide guidance.

When you are afraid, I AM can provide confidence to move forward.

When you feel…

Adebola Alabi

A Certified Financial Education Instructor. Mission is to help bring out the best in others. Thanks for reading my work. Check my website www.winnersways.com.

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